Quiet doesn't mean coping

Many children, and especially teenagers, hide their grief: to fit in with friends, to protect a grieving parent, or because the feelings are too big.

Adults then assume they're fine, and the child gets no support. Researchers call this a double jeopardy.

Keep making openings: in the car, while cooking, at bedtime. Side-by-side conversations are easier than face to face.

Say the person's name. Children often take silence to mean the subject is off limits.